Monday, August 15, 2005

Tae Kwon Dooh


How do I do this?

How do I motivate a kid to break a board with her bare foot. She has done it before, multiple times. Now she is having a hard time breaking this stupid set of boards. GGGRRRRR.

I just had her in the garage. Watching her pull the kick as it got NEAR the board. WWWWWHHHHHYYYYYY?!?!?!?

This is driving me crazy. If it is a question of not wanting to take tkd that would be one thing. But she is really upset. She is also upset that I will NOT accept that she CAN NOT do this. She certainly can. How do I show her that.

I have tried to motivate her through kindness, understanding, with humor, through anger... nothing seems to work. I still keep getting the same tired old, "IIII Can't!"

Worse yet, I am willing to let her take the time she needs to get to where she needs to be mentally. But Daddy Dear keeps asking me to work with her. Yes, this tkd stuff has been his idea from the start. But when push comes to shove, he isn't around or interested in the motivation part. He expects me to figure it out. AND I CAN'T!

So I guess my problem is two-fold. I feel bad that I can't motivate her and then I get to feel worse because he keeps pushing us both to get it done.


Chicka said...

Talk to the instructors at the dojang. I'm sure they have some tips. Otherwise, it's a matter of focusing past the boards.

Email me and we can talk about it some more. I might have a few tips.

Chicka said...

Also meant to add if daddy is pushing, he needs to put up or shut up (so to speak). TFB was doing the same thing (with TKD and other things). I told him if you're gonna bitch about it, DO something about it! If you're gonna complain the house needs vacuumed, then VACUUM IT! If you're gonna push her to practice, THEN HELP HER!!! He has the proper tools (although I'm the one that knows the finesse of the moves), but he's capable enough to help.

At any rate, ask her what will help her. I think it's a fear of failure, but you know what - she'll get over it. She will. Honest. It's not about breaking those boards. It's about not being good enough and being a perfectionist. (Don't ask me how I know this - ::snicker::)

Still email me, ok? I think we can help her.